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Your Grandparents Influenced You the Most

(Reminder: to read this in order, go to the archives and start at May 17,  2018.)

Of course, you have fond memories of your grandparents.  They helped take care of you, gave you fun toys and played the best make believe games you could imagine.  
I have wonderful memories of my grandparents, too, but they also taught us about aging and death.  Grandparents helped you face the good and the bad growing up.  
When I was in 6th grade, my mother lost both her parents one month apart. They had been suffering with chronic poor health and this was my first experience with losing close relatives. It was a lot for a ten year old to absorb and I thought I was next to die. I was so consumed with hypochondriacism that every blemish or vein on my skin scared me. I did not share my fears with my parents at the time and I suffered great emotional turmoil alone.
Luckily a short time later I ran across a box of books and found an elementary health textbook. The grade school style language and pictures…
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